Mufti Zubair Bayat
The purpose of men and women on earth
- by Mufti Z.Bayat
Why then have women been created? Allah Ta'ala desired that mankind should remain on earth and He granted women an important position for the procreation of mankind until Qiyamah. All the Ambiya (Alayhimus-Salaam) were born to some woman or the other. Even the Auliya-Allah were born of mothers. When women are fulfilling such a lofty role in the community, it proves without doubt that Allah has given position to women. Those that believe that the Shariah has not given women a high status and position are absolutely wrong. Nowadays, because only certain Ahadith are narrated to Muslim women in so far as their duties to their husbands, etc. is concerned, many women feel that they are here only to fulfil the needs of men; whereas this is not the case. Just as men have rights upon their wives, so too do women have rights upon their husbands. The correct thing to do would be to show each of the Divine Texts in their relative contexts. In this way, a fine balance is struck between the various Texts and a complete picture regarding each others rights and responsibilities are better understood.
UNDERCURRENTS TO MISLEAD MUSLIM WOMEN...
There is a clear under current at work in the media and educational institutes such as universities, colleges and in other forums in the form of seminars and conferences, with the direct collusion and connivance of hostile elements to (mis?)inform women, especially Muslim women, with regard to their rights. They are made to believe that they should enjoy "equal" rights with men and that they should put up resistance, fight and campaign for these "equal" rights. It is on this basis that some so-called "Muslim"
organizations have set up "gender-desks"; to fight back for "equal" rights that have ostensibly been denied to them. Day by day a vicious and aggressive campaign is being undertaken by "Muslims" to convince Muslim women that their rights have been suppressed, that they do not enjoy any position in Islam, that they are merely door-mats and that they have no real status. We Muslims need to realize that this call is coming from those quarters who ultimately want to take the Muslim woman away from the real and original Islam and to attract her to a hybrid, distorted caricature of the real Islam - this is called the "enlightened" version of Islam. The Muslim woman, more than ever, needs to exercise her intelligence and understanding; she needs to view the matter in it's correct perspective. She needs to compare her position to
that of the women of the world before Islam; the time when she had no position in life and no status in society. A woman was treated at that time as a real door mat. She was an object of oppression. Little girls were buried alive and most women were
treated in the most despicable manner. If we had to study the history of Islam, you will no doubt agree that Islam gave them a status like no other religion or system in the world, oast present or future. Even in the present time, there are many countries in the
world who hardly give women any rights; and what is ostensibily given to them as rights is a mere window dressing of rights, to hoodwink the double-faced UN and it's multi-faced organs. Islam has given women their due rights; Yes Islam does not want to give women the rights that the west wishes to give women; in fact, this is no "rights", but a mere deception of rights. It is just a way in which they are able to drag women out of the sanctity of their homes into the public arena, so that their men can fulfil their evil desires and lusts. They want to see women naked on the street, deprived of their real position, stripped of their dignity, honour and clothes. This is precisely what Islam does not wants for womankind... Unfortunately some "Muslims" have nalvely played into the hands of the cunning foxes. Or maybe they have deliberately chosen to work in cahoots with their "masters" - whom they adore and virtually worship. The wolves in sheeps skin are many these days. Distinguishing between friend and foe is becoming an increasingly difficult exercise these days. Among the people "employed" by these people are the so-called "scholars" of Islam, commisioned to "re-interpret", "revise" or "re-think" the Quran and Islam and make these "relevant" to our times. One of these so-called scholars is one American woman - some Amina Wadud Mohsin who recently came to South Africa and in collusion with local "scholars", went on a carefully planned mission to disrupt the unity of the Ummah and plant seeds of doubt and dissension in the minds of Muslim women accross the country. Let us realize that if we are not going to equip yourselves with proper Islamic knowledge; particularly our young Muslim women at schools, colleges and varsities or even at home; our Iman will be in grave danger. Let us learn to recognize our enemies from our friends. Merely to please our enemies are we
going to turn away from our True Benefactor? This will indeed be most foolish!
PROLIFERATION OF DIVORCES
by Mufti Z Bayat
The alarming explosion of Talaaqs in our present times is a cause for great concern. The mention of the word Talaaq which was at one time taboo in our communities has now become such a common and cheap word that in some marriages every argument features this word; either the husband threatens with it or the wife demands it. Forgotten is the grave warning of our Rasul (sallallahu-alayhi-wasallam) that Talaaq causes the grand throne of Allah to shudder. This is an expression to convey the utter abhorrence of Talaaq in Islam (unless it is extremely unavoidable).
The sanctity of Nikah and marriage has all but left the hearts of these people. Nikah has almost become like another of the hundreds of disposable
commodities in the market – disposable plates, cups, towels, lighters, etc. A casual and cavalier attitude has almost developed towards the institution of Nikah, an attitude that says if it doesn't work out, it doesn't matter, we'll live on - maybe try again. Some people have gone through a number of divorces in their lives without a care in the world.
What has contributed towards this deplorable state of affairs? A number of
factors could be responsible for this recent proliferation of talaaqs which has resulted in so many broken homes and shattered families. Lack of proper Islamic education is one big factor. Lack of fear of Allah is another. Selfishness, hard-heartedness, stubbornness, callousness, an uncompromising attitude is another factor. Never overlook the devastating effect of western culture and values in the home – it is poison for the Muslim marriage. Inability to handle the pressures of marriage and an escapist attitude is a major factor. Anger is another dangerous factor.
When a person loses control of his anger and flies into a towering rage, he can do the most drastic and foolish of things in the world. The fruits of anger are very bitter. Sayyidina Rasululluh (sallallahu-alayhi-wasallam) has mentioned: "The beginning of anger is madness and the end result is sorrow and regret." Whatever the cause maybe, in order to gain some temporary, imaginary victory, or to score a few points in one's favour, an extremely short-sighted decision is taken and the long term implications are totally ignored.
In almost all instances the short sightedness adopted in handling the situation by giving or demanding the Talaaq results in much regret, misery, sorrow and heartache later on. Often the damage is too extensive to rescue or salvage the situation. At that time, a frantic effort is launched to obtain fatwas or rulings to reverse the devastating damage of Talaaq, but to no avail. Even if a fatwa is obtained under false pretences or grounds, it cannot render lawful that which Allah has rendered unlawful and forbidden.
Nowadays, some parents and family elders too adopt an indifferent, casual attitude and hardly bring any pressure on the warring couple to pull together and resolve their differences. The sad reality is in some instances, they have actively promoted the process of disintegration of the marriage and encouraged the Talaaq! At times, they simply shut the door on the any discussion or dialogue to address the problem. Sometimes, the pride of the parents or family comes even before the interest of the couple who inwardly are willing to reconcile but do not have much say because of family pressures.
Then there is the wider Muslim community that sits by as spectators, as if watching some boxing or wrestling match. They are content to pass remarks and indulge in idle gossip on the sad state of affairs. This is a very dangerous attitude. The fire of divorces and mariage breakdown is spreading while people are watching idly. Heaven knows whose house will burn down next if the situation is not arrested in good time. The least that the general public can do when they hear about a marital dispute is to make fervent Dua that Allah must give Hidayat and understanding to the couple and save their marriage. To save marriages, Islam has actually permitted the speaking of "white" lies if that will bring about some degree of reconciliation in the couple. If the situation is left to spiral out of control, the fabric of our society will be rent asunder. Dozens of divorced women (and men) are not healthy for the well being of society. Something has to be done about the present situation.
Just as the factors of Talaaq are numerous, the solutions to the problem are also multi-faceted. Mass-scale educational programs on matrimonial matters is an absolute imperative. Through the pulpit and various fora and Islamic media, both print and electronic, a sustained educational campaign is to be launched. Spiritual programs that contribute towards Allah-consciousness and fear of accountability are absolutely imperative and need to be increased many fold. Attitudes and outlooks need to be changed. Rectification of character and conduct – Islahe-Nafs - is a crying need. Marriage counseling with an Islamic orientation must be increased dramatically. Pre-marital educational programs should become compulsory for all prospective couples - boys and girls. A decadent
lifestyle and western values have to be shunned and spurned if a marriage is to work and thrive. Islamic values based on simplicity and humility and a sunnah way of life is a guarantee for a happy married life. With these concerted efforts, the tide will slowly turn, Insha-Allah. The rot will be remedied and a solid and firm family structure will result. This in turn will become the bedrock of solid communities, giving rise to a mighty Ummah. For those who are experiencing marital problems, please don't simply throw the towel in and walk out. Please be patient, forgive, forget and overlook, make duas, seek help and guidance, make one more attempt to make it work - this time it might work out with Allah's help!