I am having difficulty in finding a suitable marriage partner and would like to know if it is a good idea to search for one through a marriage bureau and websites. Please guide me on how to secure a good marriage partner.
A person seeking a suitable marriage should consult with senior womenfolk (e.g. mother, grandmother, aunts, sister) in his family and request them to identify for him a suitable partner who will fulfill the Islamic and social requirements of a man. Women are generally more acquainted with the mannerisms and conduct of other women and would be in a better position to identify a suitable partner. The family womenfolk would also be acquainted with the temperament of the boy, his habits, likes and dislike and will search for someone who would complement him in his mannerisms. This is the honourable way to secure a marriage partner.
If a person is having difficulty in finding a partner with the aid of family and relatives, and would want to adopt other avenues then precautionary measures must be kept in mind. The electronic matchmaking and marriage agencies present certain dangers to a person’s integrity and Iman. One must be wary of these potential dangers particularly when divulging personal information etc. This method is discouraged and preferably avoided. Nevertheless, whatever measure is adopted in procuring a suitable marriage partner, at all times, the parameters of the Shariah must be upheld. Compromising on the Shariah would certainly deprive the marriage of blessings and mercy. It could also lead one to unwittingly becoming inclined to someone unsuitable, and thus creating a potentially problematic situation.
Darul Ihsan Social Department